I work with adult individuals experiencing a variety of internal and external barriers to achieving full agency in their lives: limiting beliefs and behaviors, habituated relational patterns, post-traumatic stress reactions, etc. Here are some of the themes we can explore together:
- Anxiety and fear, or a general sense of being overwhelmed by everyday experiences; a tendency to withdraw; reestablishing safety to more fully engage.
- Difficulty taking in support; an ongoing sense of deprivation or an exaggerated aspiration towards self-reliance; distinguishing between reliable and unreliable support.
- Conflicts between freedom and closeness; difficulty expressing oneself and over-accommodating; re-accessing our own preferences, autonomy, and truth.
- Feeling “never quite good enough”; overachieving and overefforting; cultivating self-acceptance and easefulness.
- Post-traumatic stress reactions due to high impact falls or injuries, inescapable attacks, natural disasters, war experiences, and various forms of oppression; connecting with one’s own agency, resources, and natural support systems.
I help people experience more secure and satisfying connection in diverse types of two-person relationships. I work with monogamous relationships, consensually non-monogamous relationships, and sexual and gender minority relationships. Here are some of the themes we can explore together:
- Balancing the drive for individuality and the drive for togetherness.
- Studying how you construct your experience in your interactions, including family-of-origin influences; taking responsibility for your own experience and contributions; stepping outside of limiting, self-reinforcing relational dynamics.
- Improving communication and negotiation skills; avoiding projections and distortions; completing interactions in a more satisfying way.
- Rebalancing power differentials, restoring trust, reestablishing safety.
- Working with nervous system and trauma-related activation; remaining resourced in the face of relational disruptions.
- Orienting towards hopefulness and possibility; experiencing the relationship as a source of comfort and security; co-constructing shared purpose, vision, and principles that govern the relationship.
I lead interpersonal process groups for adults interested in exploring who they are in relationship to others, experimenting with new ways of engaging that are both authentic and relationally healing, and strengthening their felt sense of connection and belonging.
Though process groups rely on a foundation of mutual support, process groups are distinct from support groups in that each session is unstructured and without a focus on any particular topic. Instead, the primary focus is on attending to and reflecting upon the interactions and relationships between group members.
I’m currently recruiting for a new, online interpersonal process group. It will take place every other Wednesday from 6:00-7:30 PM. You can learn more about it here.